Tongue Tyed

Jan 31, 2005

5 Comments:

At 10:10 AM, January 31, 2005, Ty said...: I hope you are right! Actually, I am sure you are. I'll survive. I always have.
At 6:15 PM, February 01, 2005, Anonymous said...: Stay strong, cuz. Getting married in your 20's is very overrated.

You are right to want to prove to yourself that you can make it before getting married. There is so much pressure to move from college to career to marriage and kids and for what? so our kids can repeat that cycle? Life becomes only about your kids and work (do you know any married people who talk about anything else?). People weren't meant to live like that, not when they are young anyway. What can a person possibly teach their kids if they've never really lived a life themselves?

Right now you are free to do whatever you want, whenever you want. Most people dont take advantage of the full possibilities of that freedom. Most people also dont realize that this is the only time in our lives we are ever going to have it as well. Once we get married, that freedom, which ranges from having a late dinner because you like the conversation you are having with a new friend to picking up and travelling for a month, is gone.

Sure, it sucks to come home to an empty house sometimes. But it is alot better than waking up 20 years from now and wondering what you could have done with your life if you had the chance...and by the way, you dont need something as grand as a dream to follow, just figure out what you like and do it. Why not head to Thailand and help the relief efforts? (a bit extreme, but you get the idea, and you could do it)...

sorry for the rant on your webblog, not that im so much older/wiser to be handing out advice...
At 10:36 AM, February 02, 2005, Ty said...: Thank you for that. It does help. THIS is why I need to live up North. When are you coming to visit by the way??? ;-)
At 9:36 AM, February 07, 2005, Ty said...: Stacy, just to let you know, anonymous is my cousin Rob from New York/NJ...I think, correct me if I'm wrong Rob, but I think he means just that you lose the ability to have everything your way. No need for compromise when it's just you. No need to ask anyone if they are cool with you say, flying to Indonesia to help with relief efforts as he suggested. You can just do it. Plus, when/if you have kids that adds a whole other element to consider. I don't think Rob is against marriage, he just has a really cool life and he knows it! (He's working on his PhD in Arab studies at Princeton...not proud of my cuz at all ;-)...and he has summers off at the Jersey shore, and winter breaks...a good life!) But I am totally speaking for Rob...I guess I could be way off on his position.

But if I was getting my PhD at Princeton and spending my summers at the Jersey shore that's how I would feel :)
At 9:37 AM, February 07, 2005, Ty said...: But I think what you are saying Stacy is great. And I really hope I am as lucky as you are someday. And I really appreciate the concern. Truly.

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