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Jan 12, 2007

What To Do When You Don't Know What To Do

Let's say you knew you needed a new job. You knew you could do many things well, but were not specialized to do any one thing excellently. You knew you loved writing, photography, and politics. But you also knew you loved money and all the gadgets and security that come with that money. To add insult to injury, you have two degrees in Advertising, but have no interest in agency life.

What do you do? Where do you even start looking? What job will allow you to be passionate, creative, and lead to financial success? Oh, and not require selling your house to accept a salary reduction.

Who do you talk to? Who do you listen to?

Do you just say fuck it all, pack up, sell the house and move? Leave all your friends, your family, everything you know, to go out completely on your own? But have an experience your independent heart may pound with excitement for, each day? What if you do all of that, and your heart doesn't pound? What if you do all that, and fail? What if you do all that and miss your home and friends with every beat of your heart?

What do you do when your heart and mind are in conflict, and you are scared and excited and willing, yet unwilling? How do you make the changes you spent so much of your adult life trying to make into routine. Running from running. Seeking solace in monotony to escape the constant change of your youth. How do you escape those fears and embrace the change again like you did as a child? How do you let that last move, the one that ripped you from a perfect world, not taint every thought and decision you imagine. How do you not see yourself crying on the front porch dramatically questioning "why?" again and again, as you watch the moving van pull away?

How do you separate the past from the future?

Labels: fears, lack of accomplishment, Work

posted by Ty @ 1/12/2007

4 Comments:

At 12:44 PM, January 12, 2007, Sarah said...: I say go for the gold. If I were you, I'd be willing to make the material sacrifices because in the long run, you'll be happier. By moving to Dallas to try and get a job in PR, I took a big risk, but the only thing I regret is being so far away from my family because I have learned so much about myself.

Do what you need to do to make yourself happy and your life worthwhile, but the people you care about are the most important!

Remember my t-shirt: The grass is always greener on the other side - That's why I rent.

LOL.
At 8:33 AM, January 13, 2007, Unknown said...: The European advice: work and money ain't everything at all!! I love money and everything with it as well, but nothing is more important than live a life you love, follow your heart and have faith in it. you will say, it's so easy for you to say all that... well screw that! you are an amazing person, you have all the intelligence, spirit, ect. to make it after all. my advice: take the step back, find the job that makes you happy, live your (desired) life, when you're happy people and loved ones will notice, you make the step from there...and stuff will fall in place. I told you that before... Materialism isnt everything at all!!, it means sh*t.. really :-) if you need help in it, let me know... im very sensetive in this area. Follow your own heart, thats what ones life is about ;-)
At 9:46 PM, January 14, 2007, Anonymous said...: There is no material substitute, not even a house, that can match the self-confidence gained by knowing that you stood up and took a chance on your dreams. That type of confidence can only make you a better person, wife, mother and businesswoman.

Someday you'll have to look yourself in the mirror and if you cant say that you have taken that chance, there may always be some regret. Failure, especially one cushioned by the resume you have already put together, is much easier to live with than regret.

If not now, when? You have no spouse and no kids, this may be the last time you have in life when you are not responsible to anyone but yourself. The longer you wait, the tougher it gets.

And finally, friends and family will still be there when you come home. Thats why they're there. And you can always go back if you want.

There is a time and a place for stability, and I think that time is for after you've proven yourself to the one person who matters, you.

A word of caution, don't expect heart pounding every day. Living a dream is a sacrifice, it means closing some attractive doors. It can also become just as routine as life is now. The big difference, though, is in those moments alone when you are truly proud to be you, when you dont doubt yourself anymore.

Or maybe im just hoping for another couch to sleep on in NYC...Sorry if this was a bit harsh, but it is the sum total of what Ive learned about life when I took a shot at what I wanted.

By the way, I dont think you'd fail...

Rob
At 9:50 PM, January 14, 2007, Ty said...: Wow! What responses! Thanks guys!

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